In not many cases do I envy others, yet there are certainly a few exceptions. With that said, most of these cases relate to a specific pattern of men pursuing a life of freedom distant away from Western Society. And Sebastian Harris, proprietor of globalseducer.com, is an example of a small cohort of like-minded men who have pulled the trigger towards saying fuck all to their native Western homes in exchange for experiencing an enriched life of adventure. Given Sebastian’s expertise with international dating, I have asked him to pen an article on a topic of his choosing:
How to Seduce High Society Girls in Bangkok
“All Thai girls are the same. They want your money and if you don’t pay, they jump in bed with the next best guy” John said.
I was dumb enough to believe him.
To be honest, I don’t know if the guy who shared this “wisdom” with me called himself John, Jack, or Joseph. It doesn’t really matter. All that matters is that I was young and dumb enough to believe him when he told me that all Thai women are the same.
Who was this guy? Well, he was some random guy who approached me in a small shop in Bangkok. Oh, and he is the embodiment of the typical Western tourist who comes to Thailand and ends up dating the wrong girl.
His wife, a bar girl, used him for money. She didn’t love him. Hell, she probably didn’t even know how the word love is spelled. All she cared about was money, money, and money. And you can’t really blame her.
Her parents told her that she needs to support the family by working in a shady bar in Bangkok’s red light district. Of course she was after his money. But he was blind and stupid enough to ignore it until he was so fed up with his wife that he spread the rumors that all Thai girls are the same.
If he had read this article before marrying a bar girl, he would be a happy and fulfilled man.
Why Most Western Men Will Never Date a High Society Girl
Most Western men will never date a high society Thai girl. Period.
There are two reasons for that.
Reason #1: They believe that all Thai girls are bar girls.
What these men don’t realize is that less than 0.01% of the women you meet in Bangkok work or have worked in a bar (estimated but accurate number). Just because every documentary about Bangkok shows Nana Plaza doesn’t mean that there aren’t millions of educated and independent women in Bangkok.
Reason #2: They act like the typical tourist.
Let me make one thing clear:
If you talk, look and behave like the typical tourist, you won’t be able to impress a high society girl in Bangkok.
The 7 Steps to Dating a High-Society Girl in Bangkok
It’s easy to date a bar girl in Bangkok.
All you need is a bit of cash and thick condoms. She will do everything for you because she hopes that you will marry her and provide for her and her family.
But that’s not what you want. You want to meet and attract a stunning Thai woman who can pay for her own stuff. You want a girlfriend who is together with you because she is attracted to you and not your wallet.
You can get such a girl, but only if you do things differently than all the guys who end up dating the girls around Nana Plaza.
1. Study the Thai Culture
There’s one thing you need to do before you can even think about dating a high society girl in Bangkok. You need to study the Thai culture.
Unless you want to mess up the first date, there is no way around it.
The Thai culture, especially the Thai dating culture is completely different than in the USA. A low class girl might laugh when you touch her head during the date (absolute no-go) or when you put your used fork and knife on the table (another no-go), but a high society girl won’t think that this is cute or funny.
She’ll feel embarrassed and no woman wants to be together with a man who makes her feel this way.
2. Stay Away from the Bars
If you are addicted to the red light district you can forget about dating and especially keeping a high society girl.
The last thing she wants is to be seen as a bar girl. This stigma would ruin her social reputation. That’s actually the reason why some really wealthy families don’t want that their daughters date foreigners.
What happens if one of her friends tells her that he saw you at Nana Plaza? Prepare yourself for an argument.
What if you tell her that visiting the go-go bars of Bangkok was a fun experience? You won’t hear from her again.
Remember, you are not dating a girl who comes from the bar scene. You are dating a woman who does everything in her power to prove that she has nothing to do with this scene.
3. Learn at Least Basic Thai
High society girls don’t want to date tourists and backpackers who travel to Thailand because it’s cool or hip. They want to date men who have a genuine interest in the country, the culture and the people.
But how can you prove that you are interested in these things?
Learn the language.
You don’t have to be fluent. Heck, you don’t even have to be able to build a whole sentence. All she wants to see is that you make an effort and that you are different than all the other foreigners who can’t say anything besides “hello” and “thank you” in Thai.
4. Dress Like a Cosmopolitan Man
Let me ask you a tricky question.
A: a small beach village?
B: a cosmopolitan capital city with about 8 million inhabitants?
The shocking truth is that most foreigners who come to Thailand and who expect to date amazing women dress as if they were in a beach resort in Ibiza.
Sorry, but your tank top, short trousers and flip flops won’t impress a woman who walks around like a catwalk model. In fact, if you walk around like the typical tourist, she’ll pray that her friends and family members won’t see her with you.
You need to have some style.
You don’t have to wear a suit, but a nice shirt and jeans are enough to set you apart from all the other tank top backpackers.
5. Be Prepared to Have Ridiculous Arguments
Don’t argue with a high society Thai girl about why status is not really that important.
While people in the West are in the process of learning that having a big car, a big house and a white picket fence doesn’t always make sense, wealthy Thai people still think like we did a couple of decades ago.
The little word “status” means the world to them. Of course not all women are like this, but some high society girls do everything to increase their status. Yes, they even think about buying a car in a city with traffic jam around the clock.
I once had a conversation with a high society girl about owning a car. I told her that I would never buy a car in Bangkok because you are faster by walking. She didn’t understand it. Her argument was that you need a car because wealthy people have cars.
Makes sense, right?
6. Don’t Try to Buy Her
Maybe you don’t even want to buy her. Maybe you just want to give her a beautiful but expensive present.
I know how counterintuitive that sounds, but if I were you I would not do it.
She might take it the wrong way.
Remember, high society girls are scared that they will be seen as bar girls and that their boyfriends look and behave like the stereotypical sex tourist. As soon as she gets the impression that you belong to the group of guys who buy the attention of women, you are out.
Think twice before you buy her a handbag, especially at the beginning of your relationship.
7. Accept Her invitations
While many foreigners believe that all Thai women are terribly poor, the high society girls you meet in Bangkok have probably way more money than you.
Some of them own several condos, brand new cars and smartphones that look like spaceships.
Yes, the girls you are about to meet are rich and when they like you, they might want to invite you. It happened to me and it can happen to you. It’s not a big deal.
Unfortunately, Western men tend to react in a weird way whenever this happens. They decline the invitation because they think that she only does this because she expects an even more expensive present from you.
I mean, we all know that all Thai girls are the same and want your money, right?
Don’t drive yourself crazy. Just accept her invitation and be grateful that you didn’t end up dating a bar girl.
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